How can one holiday season bring about so much joy and stress at the same time?

If you're anything like me, you've probably already noticed the Christmas decorations and apparel on display—and maybe even groaned at the sight. With so many expectations and obligations tied to this time of year, it’s no wonder the holidays can feel overwhelming. However, a little proactive planning can go a long way in reducing stress, leaving you free to enjoy quality time with friends and family.

If you’re ready to approach the holidays differently this year, let’s explore some tasks you can tackle early in the season. That way, when December 25th rolls around, you’ll feel more joy and less frazzle.

Plotting Your Schedule For The Season

Grab your calendar—it’s time to map out your holiday season! Invitations to parties and events will be coming in fast, and if you don’t prioritize the activities that bring you the most joy, you might miss out on them.

Start by reflecting on last Christmas. Was there something you wanted to experience but didn’t have the chance to? Now’s the time to research that event and set a date. Also, don’t forget to block out downtime for yourself. The hustle and bustle of the holidays can be exhausting, so scheduling moments for self-care is essential.

Once you’ve outlined your must-do activities, coordinate any holiday traditions you share with family and friends, like baking cookies or watching holiday movies. With your most meaningful events on the calendar, you can feel confident and fully present in the moment without the fear of missing out.

Be sure to plan time for decorating and gift preparations if those are part of your festivities. Decorating can start as early as you like, and there’s no rule saying it all has to be done in one day. Breaking it into smaller sessions might better fit your schedule.

If you’ll be mailing gifts, aim to send them at least seven days before December 25th, though earlier is better to avoid long lines. Mark your shipping deadlines on the calendar, and work backward to schedule time for shopping and wrapping. If you rely on online shopping, remember that shipping can take up to two weeks, so it’s best to place your orders by the first week of December.

Being a Gracious Gift Giver and Receiver

Gift-giving doesn’t have to be overwhelming—or even obligatory. It’s perfectly fine to opt out of certain gift exchanges, and some people may even appreciate the idea of simplifying the season. The key is clear communication. Let others know ahead of time if you’d like to adjust gift-giving traditions, so everyone is on the same page.

For those you do plan to shop for, start by making a list. Include everyone you want to buy for, along with any “White Elephant” or similar party gifts. Jot down gift ideas and set a budget for each.

If you’re stuck for ideas, reach out to the person directly. They might have a wish list or be able to offer some hints. If not, try asking questions like:

• What are your hobbies or favorite pastimes?
• Is there a particular item or experience you’ve been wanting?
• Do you collect anything?
• Are there books, movies, or music you’re into right now?
• Do you have any upcoming events or trips that a gift could complement?
• Do you prefer sentimental or practical gifts?

These questions can help spark thoughtful gift ideas tailored to their interests.

When it comes to your own wish list, consider answering those same questions for yourself. Share your ideas with loved ones or update an existing list, like on Amazon. Remove items you’ve already received or no longer want, and add new ones that reflect your current interests.

Christmas can feel overwhelming if you let it, but a little planning and mindfulness can transform the season into one of joy and connection. By thoughtfully managing your time and tackling key tasks early, you’ll free yourself up to embrace the holiday spirit—and maybe even create a few new traditions along the way.